Your Sorting Hat: Your inner critic, benefits of tough times and asking for advice
Career Tuesday
Careers, Life and Questions (Nov 29, 2022)
Wish you a Happy Career Tuesday!
3 Career Ideas
I.
"You can choose to approach any discussion to -
Either get the best results
Or figure out who is right and who is wrong."
II.
"When you make a habit of setting aggressive deadlines for yourself,
You will typically "exceed expectations" - both your own and your team's."
III.
"Criticism hurts more, not when it is true,
But when it echoes your inner critic.
Either silence your mental chatter or listen to it."
2 Life Quotes from Books
I.
Greg Lukianoff, journalist and author, highlights the importance of facing rough times for a successful life in his book - The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure:
"From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice.
I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty.
Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted.
I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either.
And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship.
I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.
Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes."
Source: Book: Coddling of American Mind by Greg Lukianoff
II.
Steven Pinker, cognitive psychologist, cautions against believing that individuals will act out of rationality all the time, in his book - The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined -
"The indispensability of reason does not imply that individual people are always rational or are unswayed by passion and illusion. It only means that people are capable of reason, and that a community of people who choose to perfect this faculty and to exercise it openly and fairly can collectively reason their way to sounder conclusions in the long run."
Source: Book: Better Angels by Steven Pinker
1 Question
Did you ask for advice today?
Each time you ask, you have a chance to gain a well wisher who wants you to succeed.
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Devashish Chakravarty
Author of YourSortingHat
Columnist for Careers at The Economic Times
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